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Intrapersonal Goals in Real Everyday Life with Examples

Before motivating others, you have to understand the personality of the person, their goals and intentions, and be aware of their behavior and personal values. As a motivator you must have these personal traits. By knowing this information, you will be able to both motivate and resolve conflicts of a team or group.Confidence doesn't require any proofs or evidences. Your strong self belief in certain situations can take you long way. For example, you can have a strong belief that your spouse loves you inspite of all the conflicts that you may experience.

For example: After a job interview, you will have a strong blind belief that somehow you will your job inspite of not doing the interview very well.
Intrapersonal Communication: The communication that happens within yourself is intrapersonal communication. Internal Self Talk, We talk to ourselves with various emotions that include positive or optimistic, pessimistic, empathetic, and neutral tone of voice.

Instinctive: We are reflexive, either we respond or react to certain life situations. We behave the way we behave because people are influencing us to behave like that. It includes being proactive or reactive with people.

Intellect: Our mind obeys certain logic. It relies on certain proofs and evidences. It includes creative ways to solve problems and finding innovative methods to bring change, managing knowledge and information through memory aids, logic, mnemonics and acronyms to remember daily chores and activities, creative note taking, creative time management, applying intellectual skills to be more effective and efficient.

Intuition: It is reasoning illogically, no proof, no evidences, no reasons and no questions. it could be blind beliefs that are irrational. Few intuitive self belief words include faith, blind acceptance, trust, hope, blind enthusiasm and blind respect.
It includes how do you self regulate. Examples includes self motivation, handling personal change and developing a new behavior, habit, etiquette or manners such as developing patience, practicing proactive behavior to name a few.

Intrapersonal conflict: It includes both your physical and mental conflicts such as your demotivationals, your mood swings, anger, guilt, handling failures, and comprehending your mistakes. Intrapersonal Conflicts can be broadly classified into HEARTS mnemonic. You will have conflicts with Health, Environment around you, Aspirations, Relationships, Things, and the Society.

Intrapersonal Learning Style: Intrapersonal learning style differs from person to person. David Kolb broadly divides learners' styles into 4 categories: We learn, by just hearing to someone (Theorist), when someone shows something (Reflector), when someone makes us do something (Activist) and by burning hands practically experiencing it by ourselves (Pragmatist).

There are several advantages towards intrapersonal development. Your intrapersonal effectiveness will land you into right careers and jobs Your intrapersonal relationship and strength reflects in your interpersonal behaviour and communication. You should understand your own self before trying to understand others. You must understand different personalities and the behavior of others either to empathize with them or to persuade them. Your thoughts and understanding about others, the way you interact and your intentions behind the communication is called interpersonal intelligence.

Influence (Personal): Personal influence is bringing personal change in life. Includes being organized, managing time, and tasks, setting personal goals and achieving it.

Influence: We influence people either consciously or sub-consciously. Conscious influence is about persuading, convincing and negotiating with others to prove your opinions and beliefs. Subconscious influence is influencing people without they knowing that you are influencing them. And, Conscious influence is they are aware that you are trying to influence them. You can do that by convincing them through bargaining, persuading, or negotiating. However, you have to get into their strong beliefs, opinions and actions that are prevailing from their birth. In order to be successful, you must first believe in yourself, your thoughts and your actions. Second, you communicate it through interactions and actions.

Subconscious influence: You being influenced without your knowledge. Self-aware influence: You being influenced consciously.  So you consciously change something. Here are 11 different types of changes that you experience during self-aware influence: Start a change: you start a change keeping certain goals in mind, Stop a change, Sustain a change, Survive a change, Step-up a change (continuous improvement), Secure a change, Seek a change, Support a change, Seclude away from change, Sense (foresee) a change, Stand-still during a change. When you want to change something, you must have an approach that can be broadly divided into Vision, Mission, Strategy, Competencies and Values.

Sometimes, influences around us is one of the major intrapersonal barriers. So you must be clear of your personal values to break this barrier.

Inner voice: The communication that is happening within yourself both during normal situations and during conflicts is internal self talk. it is also called intrapersonal communication. The importance of intrapersonal communication is immense especially during intrinsic motivation and intrapersonal conflict resolution.

Intentions: To illustrate intentions, imagine that you are a sales professional who is sells apartments. Intention is your motive, or your purpose behind any act. what is your intention behind selling apartments as a sales professional:

  1. Sell the apartment to make money
  2. Sell the apartment so that you meet your monthly sales target
  3. Help your prospect to get the best deal and value for money
  4. Suggest the best apartment according to the prospect's needs and desires
Interpretation: Interpretation is the perception, or assumption, you have about yourself, others, and situations. For example, when the prospect objects by saying, "I'm not interested in whatever you are selling", what is your interpretation about the prospect:

  1. I think the prospect does not have enough money to buy this apartment
  2. I think the prospect does not have trust in me
  3. I think the prospect already has an apartment
  4. I think the prospect needs more information about the deal.
Inference: The difference between interpretation and inference is, interpretation is your perceptions, or assumptions, about yourself and the prospect BEFORE and DURING the conversation, while, inference is the conclusion you draw out of context, about the prospect and the situation. For example, if the prospect buys the apartment after a firm persuasion made by you, you would conclude:
  1. I think I have to persuade every prospect to make a sale
  2. I think it was luck that this prospect accepted my offer
  3. I think prospect is quite rich and has the ability to buy two more apartments if I had persuade even harder
  4. I think the prospect liked the way I persuaded the offer.
Inverse (Boomerang): In certain situations, what you think of others is what you think of yourself. If you expect others not to make mistakes, you expect yourself to be perfect. if you hate people who get angry, perhaps, you will hate yourself if you get angry.

We come across several self conflicting situations in life. It includes mental and physical health, relationship with others, and professional aspirations and goals. It includes how we react or respond to changes.(Intonation)

Intensity: Intensity is the degree of emotion and feeling during an event. For example, how do you feel when you sell an apartment?

  1. Very excited because you feel contented, satisfied and pleased about the sale and you are happy that your prospect has got the best deal
  2. Feel OK and move on to the next prospect so that you achieve the target for this month
  3. It does not mean anything to you because it is part of your job achievements.

How emotionally close you are with the others is intimacy. Self disclosure is one example of intimacy. People's sensitivity level about an idea differs. Something that is sensitive to you may not be sensitive to others. Intensity is the degree emotions and feelings during a life event. For example, how deep you feel when you either win a lottery ticket or lose a job. It determines our emotional sensitivity.

1.1.8 Inflection: 

Inflection is the variation of your emotions, feelings and thoughts based on the people and situation. For example: imagine that your confidence dropped when the prospect said, "I'm not interested", how quickly did you change your attitude to optimism, encouraged yourself to give more benefits to the prospect rather than getting discouraged.

And, imagine that you were very happy the moment the prospect accepted your offer. Now, how quickly were you able to retrain--hold down--your excitement and closed the sale in a calm and composed manner.

How quickly you resume yourself (Inflection).Mood swings, and feelings are some examples our emotions. And, how do you feel when there is a conflict or when you make mistakes, or when you face failure in life. Sometimes we are confused why internal conflicts happen. Feeling guilty, handling failures, your thoughts, feelings and opinions about the mistakes that you've made in life are some examples of intrapersonal conflict. Once you identify them it will be easy to resolve them through self motivation skills. You have to identify your personal decision making styles that include perception, ethical, apathetic, rational and legal.

Once you are aware of yourself, your beliefs, your thoughts and your personal values, you can decide whether to cherish your life or would you like to change it through self regulation or just stay where you are right now through self management. So, for self regulation and self management, self awareness skills provide a ground. Above all, you will be able to solve several intrapersonal conflicts in life if you are aware of yourself.


To introspect is to find out your own feelings and thoughts. what happens to you when you make a mistake, why do you make mistakes in the first place, how do you feel when you fail to achieve something. when do you get angry and why. How do you handle embarrassment and guilt.

You have acquired certain thoughts, behavior and attitude from your ancestors. This could include, patience, impatience, self confidence, and straightforwardness to name a few. We are what we are because either we have inherited these traits from our ancestors or we have acquired it from people around us. Personality is inborn traits while behavior is how we behave with different personalities we meet. Few example of personality includes our inborn characteristics such as being assertive, aggressive or passive.

There is one constant inner voice that talks to you all through your life, sometimes even in dreams. Have you identified your inner voice. is it positive, pessimistic, empathetic or neutral.

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